Stop rowing upstream
What is life but an ever-shifting stream of experience? Fluid, continuous - always dynamic, never static.
Living in harmony with this truth is deeply rewarding, but the moment we start resisting the nature of experience is the moment we start suffering.
As adults, we've all basically erected a whole identity and gestalt of being around an impossible drive to create solidity out of the ungraspability of experience.
At best, we manage to create the illusion of control and predictability - all the while haunted by the deep-seated awareness that it's sand castles all the way down.
Why not instead embrace and celebrate how things actually are?
In order to be in flow, you have to go with the flow. You don't get flow out of resistance. And rowing upstream is way harder and less fun than the alternative.
We think we want control, but we actually don't. What we actually want is to feel at home in experience. To feel that things are right. To know that at the most fundamental and significant level, we’ll be okay navigating the continuous change and challenge of life. You won't get that from resistance.
You don't want to be static anyway - that's death. Isn't it better to embrace the flux of life - be the flux - while you still have the opportunity?